I believe that one key to the success of our marriage is that we look for things to celebrate. Birthdays, holidays, and vacations are great occasions for celebration, but if I find them few and far between in the course of a long year, how much more so in a very long marriage.
In short, the world beats us up, and can leave us feeling like we’re far behind in a game we should be winning. When our spirits are down, we need a cheerleader. We need someone who believes in us, encourages us, and reminds us of past victories when times were tough.
On the day of our wedding there was no way I could have imagined us having a contentious marriage, but often the only way we learn is by going through the laborious classroom of life, and for me that meant repeating several grades more than once.
Do you think Steven Spielberg would really care if he won the Macedonian People’s Choice award for best director? Can you imagine him putting on a tux and flying into its capital Skopje to accept the trophy? Looking back that is the way I view some of my victories in our marriage.
The last 24 hours have been about reacclimating to life off the ship, which means coming to grips with a world where we aren’t akin to Lord and Lady Crowley of Downton Abbey. A few days ago, I might have been gently chided by our assistant waiter for attempting to refill my water glass.